Makemake anei 'oe makemake e loaa na keiki ma ka adulthood? Pono pū nō ia a me nā pono

Pehea makemake oe manaʻo ina oe i hai aku i kou hāpai keiki ka loa risky? He aha e pili ana i ka "geriatric hāpai keiki" paha hoi kahi e kau "starorodjashchaja"? kani kēlā i kēia manawa me ina oe i manawa e uku i ka makaikai ana i ke kauka, akā, ma ka ike maopopo i nā mea a pau ia lakou, e wehewehe i ka wahine ka mea i hooholoia e ka hailonaʻana i ka hanau ana o ke keiki i ka manawa o ka mea, e ia ma luna o ke kanakolu. O ka holo ana, oe e ole'āpuhi, ka wā i aku nei au ka mea, i na wahine kahiko, 35 makahiki a 'oi hookauwa aku oe ia oe iho a me kou kamaiki i oi aku kamepiula. Ke kauka, e ao aku oe e pili ana i ka mahuahua ana helu anakahi o ka miscarriage, pono i ka caesarean pauku, premature hanau a me ka chromosomal abnormalities e pili ana i hāpai keiki ma ia mau makahiki. Naʻe, i ke kauka, e hai mai no hoi i ke ola i ka wahine, a ma ia mau makahiki e mai ana ke ola i ke hāpai keiki, a me ka olakino pēpē oe. Nui hilinaʻi nui ma luna o ke ano o ka wahine. Healthy wahine me kekahi pilikia mālie outsource hāpai keiki ma kekahi mau makahiki. He aha nō i ka pono o ka ke keiki i loko o ke ao nei ia oe i luna o kanakolu?

Kou ke kālā no ka mea

Wāwahi News! Children - Ua pipiʻi! Young makua e ole manao ia e pana aku au i ka mea, ma kahi o kanalima dala o ka hebedoma no ke kamaiki, a me ka mea, 'o nā mea a pau pono diapers a me ka pēpē i ka ai. Pākuʻi i keia i ka stroller, kaʻa noho, kapa a me ka cradle, e like me 'inikua lilo, a me oe e loaa nui hou i ke kala ma mua o ka mea a oukou i lilo i ko lakou hope aku a hiki i ka Hawaii. Mua na makua i oi paha e ua kau aʻe dala no keia hihia, a e loaa ia mea, i maikaʻi ka manaʻo o pehea e kahu ai i ka ohana Bedroom. Ka Pepa Ha aie uku ka lōʻihi ma luna, a me oe loa paha ia i ka pono lapaʻau. O ka holo ana, kani kālā kūlana 'aʻole i kumu hoʻomaluʻoe i ka lani parenthood, ka mea e loa kōkua i kou ola, a kōkua oe i ka wa o ka manawa, e hiki mai ana nui ke kālā, no kekahi laʻana, ka wā e koho i ka malū kindergarten a me ke kula.

Aole anei oe i hou ola ka hoao ana

Ma ia manawa, e like me oe, e ua ma luna o ke kanakolu, oe e He nui nō o ka hoao ana. Ua hele i ka hailona, ho'āʻo mea lahaʻole ai, oe i kekahi mau hana, a hiki hou aku i na hoalawehana i loli. Ua heluhelu hou puke, aʻo maila nui e pili ana i ke ao nei, a me ka mea paha ia i ke kiʻekiʻe oi aku o ka hoʻonaʻauao 'ana ma mua o ka hapanui o nā mākua'ōpiopio. O i ike ole ia i kou kiʻekiʻe o ka hoʻonaʻauao 'ana i ka pololei hopena ma luna o kāu keiki.

Kāu keiki i oi aku ka pomaikai e

O ka holo ana, ia mea oiaio i ka wahine ka mea näna e hānau ma hope o 35 makahiki, Ua oi paha e maka kekahi physical pilikia ma mua o kaikaina makuwahine, nae,ʻepekema i hoike ia parenting mākau ma keia makahiki, ua nui maikaʻi ma mua i loko o nā pōkiʻi a me kanaka i loko o kā lākou 20s i ka 30 makahiki. E like me ka hapa o ka nui study, i komo 4.700 Denemaka makuwahine, ka mea i loaʻa i mua makuwahine hōʻike i ka "oi maikaʻi makua hana" ma mua o kaikaina makuwahine. Ua mea i ka emi paha e i hanaia Episode o ka "ōlelo 'ia no coercive mana," e like me ke kahea ana a me ka hoʻonaʻauao ma physical ikaika. Ka like kākau manao i na keiki i hanau i mua makuwahine ua ikaika nui ae emi mai paha, e ana i ka "hana, nohona a me ka 'ehaʻeha o ka pilikia."

Kou hui hiki e hou aku i ka pilina paʻa

Women ma waena o nā makahiki o ke kanakolu a 'oi i he nui ka manawa e hālāwai ai me nā kānaka likeʻole. E like me ka mea i loaʻa mua, ua oi i mōakāka loa e like ia kona mea makemake ia mai he hoalawepu, no laila, me ka nui loa maoli ka likelihood i mea e e hiki ke loaʻa he hoalawepu me ka mea ia e ia ma ka hauʻoli a me ka hale lio i ka pilina ma e haawi oluolu a me ka pomaikai ole wale hapanui mau, akā, i kana mau keiki.

Oe ke mahalo hou parenting

pinepine Young makuwahine i kahaha ko oukou naau ma ko lakou unexpected hāpai keiki, oiai mua makuwahine i oi paha i hoʻolala i kēia hanana i ka mua. A me keia hoʻolālā a pau o ia hoʻi, i nā wāhine ma lalo o ka makahiki o ke kanakolu makahiki, a ma luna,ʻaʻole wale hou mokumokuahua e lilo i makua, akā, i mea maikaʻi i hoomakaukau ai no keia mua kaikamahine elemakule 20 a hiki i 30 makahiki.

Oe ua lilo i ka 'oihana i loko o pehea e lilo i kanaka makua

Ae, ma hope o na makahiki he iwakalua o ka makahiki hiki ia he maoli pōkā pahū, akā, i ka mea ia manawa i loko o kou ola ana, a he mea he kilakila dala o ke aʻo kahua o ka hoʻonaʻauao. E hoʻomaka i kou iho, e uku no kaʻaha hui uila, e kamaʻilio ana me ka haku hale, e hoopaa aku i kūʻai i ke kaʻa, e Makuakane me ka paakiki hana haʻalele 'ana, a me ke kahua o ka piha "makua" - mea ole ka mea i hāʻawiʻia ai i kēlā me kēia kanaka me ka nanea ana. ʻepekema hōʻike i ke kanaka lolo, aole ia e hiki piha waiwai nui, oiai o ka mea ua hookoia ma ka liʻiliʻi loa kanakolu makahiki.

Oe hiki i hoʻolaʻaʻia lā hou manawa i kā lākou mau keiki

Kou i ka pilina paʻa 'oihana, e haawi aku na keiki nui aku ma mua o ka manaoio ana oe hiki no e uku i ka apana aʻe o ka malama. I nā mākua a me ka pilina paʻa 'oihana,' i nui nā manawa kūpono e kiʻi piha maternity haalele iho, a me ka mea, i nui hoomaha lā i ka mea, i kēlā wā i kēia wā e hoʻohana i ka hele pôpeku pāʻani a me nā hana o kā lākou mau keiki.

Kou mau mākua hoʻomaha loa

'Oiai,ʻaʻole mālama kanaka a pau e noho ana ma kokoke koke i mau kūpuna a me nā mea a pau i loko o kekahi mau mea e, a pau ike pehea pono e paani no ke kūlana o ka la ia i kahu. Inā kou mau makua i e huli 50, e hoʻoneʻe 'ia paha i ka mea, pana aku au i ka mea a pau ka lā i hana i loko o ka like me oe i hana. Inā ka mea, e ua hoʻomaha loa? He He paredaiso oiaio no oe ma ka babysitting helu.

Oe e e hauʻoli, a ola

He aha ka kekahi o ka loa i koi aku kumu ole, e hana eha iaʻi mai ka mea e hoʻoholo e kali ana me na keiki a oe i mua? Ua huli mai ia ina he wahine, oia ke hanau hope makahiki 25, ka mea hiki ke ola hou! Ae, e ka oiaio! I loko nō o ka hoʻopaʻa pepa paʻi kiʻi ka pilikia no nā makuwahine a me keiki pili me geriatric hāpai keiki, i ke ao, i ole oi aku mamua o 28.000 i loaa na wahine i na wahine, ka poe i hanau ma hope ma mua o mau, i nui paha, e noho mai i ka 90 makahiki, a me ka degere uuku o e loaa ana mai ka maʻi mai pili me ka poe oo hoi, e like me ka naau pilikia a me mimikō. Nolaila, mai hopohopo, i ka likelihood ia oe, e noho mai ana i ka manawa o kāu keiki, e loaa i ka Pulitzer waiwai pio, ka loa kiʻekiʻe.

Lālau aʻela ia i ka luna i loko o noonoo ...

Jill Robbins, i ka pakiko-kukala "kahiko loa makuahine i loko o ka peku", i mai la: "Ua nui oʻo makuahine, au hoʻomaopopo i hoopa mai iaʻu i ka mea i aʻu i makemake eʻano ka wā aʻu i iwakalua: unmade lumi,ʻino maka, lole wāwae ma luna o ka papahele, lole wāwae ma luna o ka puka 'au, e waiho ana i ka hale i loko o ka hale lole, a no laila, ma luna o, au hiki hoʻonānea a me ka mahalo' ola no ka mea ka mea, ua like waiwai. " 'O kēia ka kokoke i kahi momona a wehewehe mea ole ka mea wale lanakila, e manaʻo e pili ana i parenting ma adulthood. A laila, i ka wa au i loko o kou aa i mua he kilakila dala, nui kou 'ike i nā haʻawina a pau au i pio e aʻo i ka ola, oe i ka ikaika pilina me ka hoalawepu a wahine, a me oe e i pane koke ai ia i na mea liilii i makemake kipaku oe Kamehameha he umi makahiki aku nei. I ka mea, i ka wa au e pono hoomakaukau no ka lilo ana o ka makuwahine.