Pehea e lawai'a ai i kahi kanaka: he set of rules

Oia hoi, ina he wahine i kekahi kaila, pakiko-ikaika, i ka hoʻoponoponoʻia, ka mea, 'aʻole i manaʻo i ka mea hele hewa i loko o kona kino ola i nā mea a pau, a me kona ike ana i ka ukupanee i kekahi kanaka, i hope e hauʻoli. Pehea'oe e loa'a ai i kahi a lanakila i kona aloha?

He mea ma'alahi ka pane i kēia nīnau: pono'oe e'imi i kahi e'olu'olu ai i ke kāne. Inā makemake'oe no kēia a'o'ana,'ōlelo mākou iā'oe e ho'oma'ama'a iā'oe iho i nā rula e kōkua iā'oe e ho'oholo i kēia pilikia.

No laila, he mea nui loa ke ho'omaopopo i kekahi mea:'o nā wāhine a me nā kāne - nā mea i hana'ia i nā manawa polar,'a'ole like lākou ma waho,'a'ole ma loko. No laila, i ka'ike'ana i ka mea e'olu'olu ai iā'oe, mai kānalua'oe no ka mea e like me ke'ano o ka'elele o ka wahine'ē. E ho'omana'o i kou hili (e like me kou mana'o) nā hoaaloha a me nā mea kālepa i nā mea kū'ai i nā mea i'ike'ia e'oe i ka nani o ka nani a me ke aloha, a ke nānā aku nei ke kāne iā lākou me he mea lā he mau mea haipule. 'O ka mea nui -'a'ole'oe e ho'olohe i ka'ōlelo a'o a kekahi (a'o kēia mau kaikamāhine), a laila e hana nā mea a pau iā'oe. A e kōkua mākouʻoe i loko o kēia ma ka hoʻolako i ka papa inoa o kekahi o na rula, pehea e hoihoi i ke kanaka. Ho'ohui pū'ia lākou a pau ma kahi'ōlelo ho'okahi: "hunter-victim". Hunter - ma'amau,'o ia, maika'i,'o ia ka mea i hō'eha'ia. 'A'ole na'e ma ke'ano maoli. Ka mea o ia ka mea like e loaa ai, a me ka pono e haawi ia ia i ka wahine i ka wa pono. No laila:

1. 'O ka mea mua a ka wahine e ho'olohe ai, he helehelena. He mea'ono ia no kāu koho. Make kāne nā kāne i nā maka, a he mea'oia'i'o kēia. Ua pono, oia ke ike i ka waiwai o loko honua, ina he wahine mea i pili? 'A'ole pono'o ia e kama'ilio a'a'ole e ho'omaopopo i kāu'ōnaehana ho'oili'u'uku, kahi i hūnā'ia ma lalo o ke'ano o ka'iole hina. Akā,'o ka mea nui ma'ane'i,'a'ole e'oki i ke ko'oko'o. E ho'omana'o i kahi wahine maika'i -'a'ole kēia he lapuwale a'ino'ole. He'ano kūlike ko kēlā po'e, a'a'ole lākou e koho i ka mea like no ka pilina pilina. No laila, ke'ano o ka hi'ohi'ona kahi e hiki ai i ke kanaka ke makemake i ka'ike mua'ana. A ma'ane'i, pono e ho'ohui like'ia me ka maika'i a me ka ho'opunipuni. A laila makemake ka kāne e'olu'olu i kēlā wahine i kēlā me kēia manawa a ho'ololi i ia, i kēlā me kēia manawa e loa'a ai nā hi'ohi'ona hoihoi.
2. He mea nui e ho'omaopopo i nā kāne e like me nā wahine i wahine,'a'ole male. 'O ia,'o ka wahine he mea'oia'i'o ia o ka wahine maika'i. No laila, ka pane i ka nīnau no ka pili'ana i kekahi kanaka, i kēia manawa,'o ka ikaika e nāwaliwali a he mau mahalo mau no ka ikaika o kekahi hoa. Pono'oe e kōkua iā ia e maika'i iā'oe, e palekana iā'oe. A'o kēia ka mea i hiki mai ai mai ia ia. A'o kāu'oihana e mahalo nui a mahalo i kāna kūlana. He mea nui e hā'awi pono'ole i kahi kanaka e ho'omaopopo iho ai inā e'ole'oe e nalowale a'a'ole e'a'a i nā pilikia a pau o ka honua. Akā'a'ole pono'oe e hana i kēia, e hele mau me ka waimaka. Inā'oe e hana mau i kēlā a me kēia manawa, e nāwaliwali ke kanaka i kāu'ano, a loa'a iā ia kekahi.
3. 'O ke kolu o ka'ōlelo ma ka nīnau e pili ana i ke'ano e pili ai i kahi kāne,'a'ole hiki ke lilo i mea hō'ike i kona hemahema a'a'ole paha. 'Oiai inā pēlā, e hau'oli iā ia me nā hua'ōlelo e like me "ua hana maika'i'oe,'a'ole wau e hana ia mea".
4. Mai ha'i aku i kahi kanaka no ke kālā, no kāna mau uku li'ili'i a me nā manawa keu. Pono'oe e mahalo iā ia,'a'ole na'e kāna kālā - a hā'awi'ia iā'oe nā makana maika'i a me nā nohona hanohano. E loa'a iā ia me ka ma'ema'e o kona'uhane, no ka mea, he mea nui ia e pono ai.
5. Mai kānalua nui a hūnā'ole: e kama'ilio pololei e pili ana i kāu mau koi a me nā'āpana. Eia kekahi la'ana, inā makemake'oe i ke gula,'a'ole kālā, maika'i e ha'i koke aku iā ia no ka mea, i ka manawa ma hope,'a'ole e loa'a nā'ōlelo hō'ino a me nā hua'ōlelo like'ole "'A'ole anei i maopopo?".

A i ka hopena, ke'ōlelo nei mākou he maika'i wale nō ka mea pā'ani a hiki i kekahi wahi. 'O ke kūkulu'ana i nā pilina he hana ia, a ua'ike mākou a pau i ka loa'a'ana o kekahi kūpono kūpono no mākou iho. E lilo'oe iā'oe iho, a e pau nā mea a pau!