6 'ana i kūpono a olelo malimali, mai ka kūikawā lawelawe oe e e hiki i kaʻume kekahi kanaka

Ua 'oe a mau loa aku ai lohe ai e pili ana i nā' ana i kūpono o ke keiki a me ka aneane? Kēia mau 'ana i kūpono masterfully waiwai FBI kūikawā konohiki, i kanaka e kamailio pu ana. Oe kekahi ke aʻo i kēia mau akamai ia paena, a, naʻe, mai hana me ka pilikino kaʻume. ʻike manaʻo Kumu Dzhek Shafer hoʻohana i kekahi mau manawa, i ka wa ia i hana like me ka malu Agena. Akā, ma mua e neʻe ana i ke omo o ka 6 aoao i kaʻume, hoʻokahi ano oiaio hoomanao: ma kaʻano o, oe e eʻoiaʻiʻo i kou hoa e like iho.

unforced hewa

Kēia manaʻoʻike liana Kumu Schafer Ua pili kela manawa, i ka wa e hele mai i loko o ka hoolohe ana i freshmen. He hoʻokohukohu nei i ka mea, ua poina i ka ahuwale oiaio, i hookahuli ai i hua'ōlelo (makahiki, e ike), a accidentally hoakaka. Nā haumāna i ka mea eagerly Paʻa ihola iā ia i nā'ōlelo a kona mentor, kiʻi i ka manawa e kuhikuhi mai i kona kuhihewa. Kumu o kaʻike manaʻo o Laielohelohe ia i kānalua ka wā i kona hui mea hoʻoponopono ', a mau ke aloha no ka hoike ana o ka malama.

Kēiaʻano hana e kokua oe e "pepehi" o ekolu manu a me kekahi pōhaku. Oe ae i kekahi aoao e i ka wiwo ole. Oe e haawi aku i ke kanaka i ka manawa e e hookuuia'ku. Oe e hōʻikeʻike i kela mea keia mea o mākou i nā kānaka apau e hana hewa. Penei, Mai makau oe, e hōʻike i ko lākou maikaʻi, oe e e hiki ke lanakila maluna iho o na kanaka.

Laina i ke kamailio ana a puni ka interlocutor

Halawai he kahiko hoa, ua hiki ole kali e kamailio e pili ana i kona ola a me ka kaena o ko lākou mau ka hana maika`i. 'ōlelo koʻikoʻi akulaʻo ia mea hana i ka pü me ka malihini. Ka pilikia a me ka hapanui o ka mai o ia mākou iʻuʻuku kēia mau mea pili i ka hana a me ka pono o na kanaka e noho ana ma kaʻano o. Mākou ke hoʻohāiki kakou i kumuhana o ka hana, a hoolohe mai ia ia me ka delving i loko o ka pā. Kēia kanaka p', maʻa e loa ae oe, e hooluolu i kekahi kanaka.

Akā, e ho'āʻo e hōʻike i kekahi maoli hoihoi i loko o ka 'ē aʻe aoao. E like me ia Dale Carnegie, i kela mea keia mea o mākou i kekahi manawa e hana i mau hoa nuipa a ma ka pono mau mahina. He mea e pono ai wale nō e hōʻike i kekahi maoli hoihoi i loko o kā lākou mau hihia. Ua pono, ina e olelo wale mākou e pili ana ia lakou iho, ka mea,ʻaʻole i loaʻa mākou i ka hookahi helu o ka hoa, a hiki no elua makahiki. E ho'ākea i kāu nīnau e pili ana i ka ohana a me ka hana 'ē aʻe kanaka ka. E hoihoi i loko o kā lākou e piʻi like, hōʻike i kā lākou mau manao mea nui loa ia oe.

A compliment, mai ke kolu o ka aoao

Keʻano hana o ke keiki a me ka aneane, e hiki e hana i kekahi compliment. Akā, inā ke mau hoÿomaikaÿi ÿia, mai kou mau lehelehe hiki ke heluhelu a ua 'ano like me ka thinly paku malimali, na compliments, mai ke kolu o ka aoao i ka io ke kilokilo mana. Kēia hana e ole i discomfort i kou hoa, a mai kaiakahinalii, i kona mau papalina flushed poni. I mea e lawe mai i ka manao i loko o ia hana, 'aʻole pono e koho i ke kolu o ka aoao. Just casually hōʻike i kou pono ole hoa nō hoomanao mau luaʻole hūʻole me ka onion, i mea kou hoa hele konaʻano ke nā hoapili i ka hanohano o kona lā hānau. Eia naʻe, i kou manaʻo, 'aʻole e kaupalena' ia ma keia manao.

empathy

People iʻoluʻolu mai i ka ike i ka lakou mau olelo i i koe unattended. E ÷ ike interlocutor kōkua aloha o ka naʻauao, uuku e nana i loko o kona mau maka, a me ka hoʻomaka 'ana ka waha. Neʻe i ke kamailio ana i loko o nā-ala alanui. Eia naʻe, loaʻa faux Pas, ka wā e hele mai ai i ka pilikia. Kahi uwa "poe ilihune! He aha kaʻai! "E huli i ka nui kupaʻa hopuna'ōlelo.

Point mai i ua i kou nā hoapili he inoino ka lā, a hōʻike i ka manaolana e koke a pau i ka mea 'ano apau loa. E nānā no na olelo o ka oluolu a me ka e Kiʻi ia kekahi pilikia mea? Aiaiiuie wale. Iki iho, no ka mea'ē aʻe kanaka, e ike i kona mau pilikia e inu oe, a ia oe e maoli makaukau e hōʻike e menemene aku ai. Manaʻo kōkua: Mai Mai e me ka Koʻolauloa, a 'aʻole i ka nānā me nā hua'ōlelo nā hoapili ponoia mai la. Ma keia hana, he mea ole maoli.

Noi no ka lokomaikaʻi

Iʻike manaʻo, mau ike kanawai o Beniamina Franklin, i nā kānaka hana a hiki i ka hihia o nā malihini. A puni me ka makemake e 'oe i ka lokomaikaʻiʻia mai ina oe lokomaikai ninau ia e pili ana ia. Ma muli o ia kou noi, i ka malihini ke kū i loko o ko lakou mau maka iho, a haha aku kona manaʻo nui. Nolaila, ina e makemake, e hana i ka holoʻokoʻa i hele mai kekahi, alaila, e haawi mai i ka manaʻo o ka hana ana i ua kanaka he lokomaikaʻi. Pela no oe e kuapo i kona nawaliwali. Aloha mai e hoʻomāʻewaʻewa mai i ka hilinaʻi o na mea e ae, a mai noi no ka lokomaikaʻiʻia mai i kēlā lā. Ka mea, e hiki koke kiʻi i hānau ai.

"Sam hoolea -ʻaʻohe hoʻoleʻa"

Kēiaʻano hana ua pili loa intertwined me ka wahi kahi e compliment E ke Kumu e kolu aoao. Aerobatics oe kaʻume ua noʻonoʻo i ka compliment, hai aku la hoi talker ... ia ia iho. Hoÿomaÿamaÿa i kēiaʻano hana like pinepine i hiki, he olonā i ano o ka minute i loko o ke kamailio ia ia mea hiki ke kuapo i ka hanohano o kou counterpart. A lailaʻo ia e i ole i waeʻia akā, e ae ana me oe. Oe ke kuhi ia e oe, e hou ma kekahi Ally hou ia.