Diffidence. Pehea e lanakila ia?

He nui nā kanaka i keia la i ka pilikia ia lakou i hiki ole ka hoike ana ia lakou iho. No ka mea, o keia, ka mea hiki ole ke hele i ka kulanui a kiʻi i makemake 'oihana - a pau, no ka mea, naʻau i ka nele o ka mea i hilinaʻi ai. Lakou mau manaʻo i ka mea, ke manaʻo nei kekahi e hemahema, e ka mea e e hōʻoleʻia no ka mea, i ko lakou mau hoa maikaʻi a me ka ikaika. Penei, ka mea pani i hakaka a me ka hoihoi, me ka hana ana i ka mea iki koe i kona moe. I ka mea, ma kaʻike manaʻo he mea i keia mau mea i ka "hilinai" a "nele o ka mea i hilinaʻi ai", i ke kanaka iā ia iho e ukuhi i hehi iho. Ua pau hilinaʻi nui ma luna o ka manaoio i loko o oe, ina e manao ana oe e pau pono, a lailaʻoe i ka maikaʻi a me ka kiʻekiʻe ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia. Eia naʻe, he mau kanaka , ka poe i hilahila o lakou iho, i ko lākou manaʻo, a me nā Emotions mau kino, pakahi, pakiko-kanalua no ka ike ia aku ninau.

mea i ke ano o kela a me keia kanaka okoa, ai kekahi o na wrestlers ola a me ka manaoio i nā mea a pau i hiki ke hoʻokō, oiai kekahi poe e makau ia e ai i ka uukuʻanuʻu i kona moe, no laila ka mea, IeAUPIIe, IAa IO mai i loaʻa ai i kekahi mea. Ke hiki wale mai i keia ola ana, a pau, ua like, akā, i kekahi kanaka ke hoomalu aku i ko lakou mau mea e pono ai ma ka hana, a hiki nae ia paha, aole ia e ike i ka pono. A me ka mea 'ē aʻe, e lawe mai i nā hana a pau āna i hāʻawi ai i ke' lii a me kekahi hapalua o nā hoapili. Pela no oe i ka maopopo i ka manao pono a me ka hoʻoponopono '-kanalua pāʻani kūlana ano nui i ma ke ola. A me ka koke oe hoʻomaka e hoʻololi i kekahi ano i loko o lakou iho, pinepine hai oe iho ia oe ke a oe ke hana ia, me ka wikiwiki oe e e hiki ke hana i kekahi mea kuka.

A no ke aha la he nui e haʻohaʻo ai, pehea e lanakila ka hoʻoponopono-kanalua. Kekahi e haliu ae e psychologists a ua pipiʻi kūlana kanaka; Other loli ma lalo o ka aoao o kekahi hanana nui i loko o ko lāua olaʻana. No ka laʻana, he uku, a insecure ia Kahalaopuna i hope i loaʻa i ko lakou pomaikai - no laila, ua lilo hou ka paulele, a kuokoa o 'ē aʻe' o nā manaʻo a me ka ike.

Aia nā poʻe e noho 'īnea me ka maopopo ma ke ola. Kahi e loaʻa ai i kekahi mea, e hiki ke olelo aku ia iho, "I Ka uku," akā, i ka wa a ka mea e loaa e kekahi pilikia, e hooili lakou ia lakou iho, ka mea a pau inoino, a haawi mai. E aho e imi 'oihana kōkua a heluhelu maikaʻi kēia puke ma luna o ke kumuhana. Ma ka Internet, ua nui na paʻi puke, a wahi aku me ka ho'ākāka i nāʻano hihia, a me 'oe e loaʻa kekahi mau mea kōkua ma lalo ma ana i ka pakele ana i ka hoʻoponopono-kanalua.

Eia nō kekahi poe noonoo ole lula i ka poe mai i ike pehea e lanakila pakiko-kanalua poe:

- pinepine hoolohe ana i ka maikai a me ka maikai mele. Ka mea, e kōkuaʻoe i mau e hoolana mai, a hoopoina i ko lakou mau pilikia e pili ana. Ka wā e manao maikai, a me oe kekahi mea bothers kanaka koke nana ole ia, a e o Laielohelohe ia oe. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he nui nicer eʻauʻau kai me ka Māhū a me kaʻoliʻoli kanaka ma mua me ka hanau i manao ia i kekahi mea.

- manaʻo o ka Hobby, a e haawi aku ia ia a pau kona hoʻokoe manawa. Inā 'oe kākau poetry a me ka haku mele, e kala aku i kou puke i haku ai ma ka make (hiki e Anonymous). E nānā i nā mea 'ē aʻe kanaka olelo e pili ana i kau hana, e kokua i ka manaoio ma ka lakou iho. Aloha mai e hoopoina i ka i nā mea a pau, aole i hooluolu iho a pau!

- e maliu oluolu a me ka hana maikai hana. Kēiaʻaoʻao oe, e manaoio ana oe e pono i kekahi kanaka i loko o kēia ao ia oe e aloha, oe e manao ole i ka. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, ina e kōkua i ka malihini, e pono kiʻi maikaʻi, a makemakeʻoe e aʻo e pili ana ia mea, a loaaʻi ka ike. A pehea e kanaka e, e huki, ina e lilo iä 'a oi leʻaleʻa.

ʻO kekahi mea nui'āpana o ke aʻo: mai i kamaʻilio lākou mau pilikia a me na kanaka a pau e pili ana. People nāʻokoʻa: kekahi pono hoolohe, akā, 'ē aʻe nō hauoli. Aia he kakaikahi ka poe i hiki maoli kōkuaʻoe. E ho'āʻo i kaʻana wale me ka poe i maoli kokoke iā 'oe a me kekahi' oe ke hilinai 100%. Wale ia kanaka, e imi i na olelo pono, oe e e hiki ke kākoʻo a me ka mālama pono ana i na mea a pau e e maikai.