Manipulations ma ka 'ōlelo

Manipulation i kamaʻilio ia lŘlŘ mau, a me ka hoʻowahāwahā i ka hopena maikaʻi connotation hoʻomaopop 'ana i loko o kēiaʻaoʻao, mea e mau loa ana me ka ino. Ma keia 'atikala mākou e nānā i ka loa typical examples o manipulation ma ka' ōlelo ma waena o hoahanau, ma ka keiki-makua Pilina, a ma ka pāʻoihana launa pu.

Manipulation ua kapaʻia ka hopena ma luna o ka palapala a hoa i mea e kū ai i ka makemake, mai ona aku. A me keia kanawai ua pono i hūnāʻia, ka wā hoʻokahi kanaka i mea kamaʻilio e pili ana, hemahema nui. Manipulations ma ka launa pu mau hoʻohana ole wale i ka limahana o kekahi nui o ke kalepa no ka waiwai. Consciously paha ole, kela mea keia mea hoʻohana i kekahi a me kekahi hopuna'ōlelo, e malama i ka mea i aloha ai kekahi / kapa ia hewa / mana e ae i kou hoa. Oe e manaʻo i ka pāʻani ma luna o kou hanohano, a me ka ia oe, e like me ka akamai kanaka, mai haawi aku i loko i kēia mau paena? E hoomanao, ina e lohe / ke hoʻohana i na hopuna mau loa aku: "wale oe ike mai iaʻu", "oe eʻaʻole aloha mai iaʻu i nā mea a pau!", "Ināʻoe e hele, I ...." Arsenal mea inexhaustible. Akā, oi pinepine manipulated ma ka la hoi e kohu like me ka mea emi ominous, a hahai aku liʻiliʻi pale. No kekahi e hana ino aku ia banal " 'Aʻohe mea i ono kī!".

Manipulations ma ka launa pu, hiki ke lalau iho i ka manawa. No ka paʻaʻana noonoo IeIIeYOA mea hoʻohana a me ka hoʻomanaʻo ia o ka maikaʻi inā pilikia ka haumāna, a me ka pipiʻi makana, a me ka aeʻalo ana i ke kuleana, a me ka manaʻo koikoi o ka lehulehu pono ...

Na makua a me na keiki

Ke theme like o manipulation i loko o ka makua-keiki pilina paha,ʻaʻole e like topical, akā, i nā mea a pau pio i loko o adulthood mākou i kekahi "ukana" mai ka wā kamaliʻi, a me ka pinepine e hoʻomau i ka hoʻohana 'ana i kūpono aʻo i loko o ka' ohana nae. Manipulation kolohe ole nae, i ka wa ka makemake nui o - e hanai, aʻauʻau i ka bebe i ka manawa a hiki i ke ahiahi me nä Temepela. Eia naʻe, loaʻa nō kekahi mau "kapu" no ka makua e makemake e ulu i maopopo koʻu manao, a me ka puni kanaka ao nei. Kēia manipulation o na ko o ke aloha, makau, hewa a me ka hoʻoponopono '-kanalua ( "Inā' oe e e hana e like me aʻu e olelo aku nei, au e haawi aku i na makuahine").

i hana

Manipulations ma ka pāʻoihana kamailio ana o ka mea i laha, a i ka nānā 'ana ma luna o ka mea hookahi arsenal. Ka mea hana i ka mea pono no ka haaheo, a me ka lapuwale o ke kanaka; hiki ke pili a me ka kūikawā nā kaʻa mokulele. No ka laʻana, ina AOON, i ka mea he willful 'ole. Kēia tactic ua pahuna ma e pili ana manaʻo o ka iini, maopopo iho. Ua hiki ke hoʻohana ', akä, a me nā kaʻa mokulele wā e pili ana maikaʻi ways, e hana lākou mau hana ma kekahi kanaka.

Pehea e hana

Inā e manaʻo ana oe i manipulated, a oe e i manao e hoʻomau i haawi ai, ma laila nō ka nui o nā koi i ke pale aku. Ma luna o nā mea a pau, hilinaʻi kou instincts a me ka hoao ana. Inā e manaʻo i kou hoapili ia mea,ʻaʻole loa ai pono, loa ia paha, e loaʻa kekahi kumu no. Paha ka mea, e hāʻawi mai lehalehu t, ka 'aoʻao, hoʻololi leo. A ina e hiki ke manao wale ia, he lua o lalo o ka suitcase, manaʻo e pili ana i mea ia a pau. An nui hiʻona o ka manipulation ma ka 'ōlelo - he huna maka pua. Inā ia mea, ua ike no oe, e hiki wale? Uaaiey oe i ka nasty hihiu, e ka mea ike i ke kanaka e koho koke i kona mau manao. Ma ka hihia o ke kokoke ana, a aloha ia hiki e loa ai ola, a fraught me rupture o ka hoahanau. E hiki no hoi ke hoʻohana 'ia e hōʻike i ka oiaio no kā lākou mau hana, akā, ka mea i pono, e loaa i kekahi me ke poo a me ka hoi ia he wahi manipulator.

Psychologists aku nei au i ka manipulation mea i kahi mea paahana o ka palapala, akā, no ka mea, o lakou iho,ʻaʻole e "maikai" a "he hewa." Ua mea nui, pehea ka mea, he aha ka mea i kou ola, a me ka palena a hiki i a oe hiki ke ku imua o lakou. Additional 'ike i loaʻa ma kūikawā nā hālāwai hoʻonaʻauao, aʻo kau, ma nā mākau i ino e hoʻopale ai i ka manipulation. O ka poe e pono e hoʻomaka e aʻo e pili ana i keia kumuhana nui, ka mea i e kupono no ka ike lea i ka hana o Eric Berne, ka mea i kahea i ka manipulation o "nā pāʻani". Mea he psychotherapeutic e hoʻokokoke i ka pilikia. Mawaena o ka poe i hilinai aku ma luna o ka nohona hookokoke, mua o nā mea a pau - i nā kākau AP Egides e kaumaha ana i mōakāka nānaina ma ka manipulation a me ka aoao e loan ia.