Palapala o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai

A pau i loaa mai i ka pü i ka 'ike mākou i ike, mai mākou ka hoao ana,? Ueony iauaeoia, e like me ma ka prism o ko mākou pilikino pili i ka interlocutor. A pinepine mākou i lohe i ka mea a mākou i ho'āʻo e lawe mākou hoapili ia. Pinepine i pololei ka hoike i kona manaʻo mea hiki ole loa ma muli o ke kahe Emotions. Oia nā pale kaʻa, e alakai i ka haunaele, a e ka mea hiki ole ke kamaʻilio i ka pono a me ka makemake - keia mea i ka palapala a nā pale kaʻa.

'ano o nā pale kaʻa

He nui nā waeʻano a me kailaʻae, i hiki ke hoʻolaha like 'ōlelo o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai. ʻAʻole mākou e kamaʻilio ma ka au mamuli o ka na Mea Maluna, akā, wale i ka hea, a wehewehe i ka loa, he pono ole ano.

1. nā pale kaʻa pokole

Mau mea o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai i ka palapala, e like me ka olelo o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai, mua nā manaʻo, a me na mea e ae. No e maopopo, ua pono e hiki ke maopopo ka hoike i ko lakou manao. Words, o ka oi aku ma ka pāʻoihana kamaʻilio, e e kekahi hoʻonohonoho hoaponoia, a me kela ano keia ano o ka olelo ana - ka paulele aku. I ka pono o ka'ōlelo hoʻi i kona mau Emotions, i ka nui paha i ka mea e e hiki ke lawe i ka mea makemake i ka olelo. Eia hou kekahi, hiʻona e like diction ke luku aku i ka manaʻo o kekahi pono makaukau ka olelo, a seriously hamper kona hoomaopopo ana. A ina e hoihoi i loko oʻano o nā o oe, i kekahi e loaa i ke hakuloli i ke 'o ka olelo, a me ka lua o ka E manaʻo e pili ana i ka hana ma luna o ka problematic kēia lākiō (ma ka rhetoric papa, Motivational hana me ka olelo kino).

Pinepine kamaʻilio nā pale kaʻa ai ka haohao ana i ka hopena o ka manaʻo mua (IeAUPIIe, IAa IO komo o ka ole-waha 'neaiaea) ka wā o ka pono ka palapala ua ālai' unwarranted io e pili ana i ka interlocutor. Me oe e pono i mau hookae ana kekahi mawaho hiʻona o ka hana hoalawepu, akā, e pono e e makaala i ka mea e ole pili i ke kumuhana o kou kūkākūkā.

Nui ole e like me ka na mea hoʻonoho, paha ka nānaina i ka pokole o ka 'ike. Mākou i kaʻokoʻa kahua o nā loina a me kekahi mau manaʻo a hiki i ka ia hua'ōlelo. Inā 'oe e ike i ka na oko ma waena o' oe a me kekahi kanaka, a me 'oe ke lawe ia i loko o ka mooolelo (' o ia hoʻi, ka hoʻohana 'ike i ka' ē aʻe kanaka, a me ka loa pololei hua'ōlelo), palapala o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai e e he lanakila.

Kaawale, e hiki ke hōʻike 'ia kēia mau huelo kamailio ana o ka mea e like ai me ka hikiʻole, e hoʻolohe i ka a me ka hoʻomaopop' ana i loko o nā kānana lohe, ua lohe mākou i makemake e hoolohe ia i ka mea a.

2. nā pale kaʻa AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN

Kēia manaʻoʻike nā pale kaʻa ma ka launa pu ana i pili i kekahi ways, okoa pono kulana, kiʻekiʻe o ka mākaukau a me ka negotiating kaila. No laila, he mea paakiki ke kamaʻilio me ke kanaka i manao e kamaʻilio ia oe he loa okoa result. A ina kekahi kele pūnaewele i kekahi pilikia e hoʻoponopono, a me ka mea 'ē aʻe - ma ka palaualelo kamailio ana, i ke kamailio ana ke panai ai elua. Ma na hihia ia mea kupono e koke hōʻike lākou Pahuhopu.

He like paʻakikī e loaʻa kekahi mau 'ōlelo me ka poe nona ka nui o ka mākaukau i loko o ka mea i kekahi me ka nui loa, a hiki e loa ka lolouila, a lilo i kumu no ka i ike pü i nā mea a pau.

3. nā pale kaʻa hopena maikaʻi Emotions

Mau nā pehea palapala o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai i ala mai ma lalo o ka aoao o ka hohonu stress a me ka kaumaha hanana, i ka wa a ke kanaka i ke koena, a me ka hilahila aku mai ka leo, a me na o ke'ākeʻakeʻa mai, kena ae la ia e Emotions ikaika (huhu, makau). Hopena maikaʻi 'ole ma interpersonal AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN a me ka hohonu pono a pau o ka io Emotions (e like me ka hilahila a me ka hewa a), a ma ka inoino naʻau i loko, a hiki e ke transient akā, i ole wale "maʻi."

'Oe ke helu nui hou pūʻulu a me ke ano o nā pale kaʻa ma ka' ōlelo, akā, ma ka hookui hookahe koko ana a me kela mea keia mea o lakou, ke kaumaha ma muli o ka manaʻo nui o ka ua kanaka ia oe a me kou AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN hana i ke koho: oe e ho'āʻo e hele mai i ka hua'ōlelo i ke kulana, a me ka hoole i ka manawalea i nā mea a pau. Aia nā hihia kahi hiki ke eliminated ka'ākeʻakeʻa mai ina na hoalawehana i hoihoi i loko o laila.

Inā 'oe i lawa ka hoʻoponopono-noʻonoʻo loi, a haha aku i ke kumu o kēia nā pale kaʻa mea o kāu mau hana, alaila oe i ua hapa-ala i kā lākou hoʻopau. Mai e palaualelo i ka hana ma luna o lākou iho, a ke noi aku i kōkua mai kekahi i hiki ke kōkuaʻoe me kēia.