Pehea e lanakila i ka makaʻu o kou iho?

Man i kakahiaka kamaliʻi hoʻopuniʻia e nā kanaka. Akā, aka hoi, no ka mea, he nui na kanaka, hui 'ana me ke kaiāulu kanaka, Ua pinepine i kahi o ka pilikia. Ua makemake mea ia ina mākou mau manawalea ana mai iaʻu me kā lākou 'ia, e loaaʻi ia kakou i makau o kānaka. Akā, somehow, ma mua lehulehu olelo, ka mea e pono ai no ka nui halawai ma ka hana, a ma nā like wahi, i hiki i kahi mākou pono e hoike ia lakou iho, eia kahi mea akaka ia mākou mea i makaukau. Pehea e lanakila i kou makau? Pehea e lilo pakiko-reliant?

Ma kekahi mau hihia, makaʻu hiki ke wehewehe ma kekahi eha hanana a lakou aloha ia i ka psyche, lilo he kumu o nohona phobia, i ka wa a ke kanaka, aole ia makemake ole, e hele mai, makau iho la ia, e kamaʻilio me ka 'ē aʻe. Akā, e like me na mea pohihihi.

A loa kekahi kulana home 'ole i ka wā o kekahi kanaka mea ola, akā, no kekahi mau kumuʻike piʻi kekahi pilikia i loko o ka lawelawe ihe. No ka laʻana, he kanaka paulele i loko o kona iho akau, akā, e hoomalu aku i ko lakou wahi o ka Hawaii ke ole. 'Ē aʻe mai i ike pehea e hoike manaʻo no laila, i ka mea i maopopo ma ka poʻe e kokoke ana i ona lā. Kekahi no ka mea, o ko lākou mau modesty a me ka heightened pono o ka tact e makau ia e hui 'ana me ke kanaka i meaʻoluʻolu ia ia. Ka mea, makemake i kekahi mea e paa ana i ka loko,ʻaʻole hiki ke kūkulu nohona pili. Kekahi mea e kaukaʻi ma luna o nā manaʻo 'ē aʻe kanaka ka, makaʻu appraising kilohi, a no ia mea paʻa a pau ka manawa i loko o ka malu, akā, malū manao ia e ka luna. Over manawa, i kēia mau pilikia ke alakai i ka mea awaawa, kāʻeoʻeo ma luna o ka honua a puni, a ma ka "hihia." No ke aha la i keia ahaʻia nei? Pehea e lanakila i ka makaʻu o kou iho?

Ke paradox waiho i loko o ka mea e ae ho'āʻo ana kamaʻilio no ka pono o ko lākou iho ka makaʻu mea,ʻaʻole he mea e malu aiʻano papa hana. Wale ma mua kilohi ia mea i loko o lākou iho honua a puni i ke ola hou nanea wale. I mea mea mea ole.

Kanaka ano mea p'. Inā ke kaiapuni Kahalaopuna kou makaʻu, ma ka hapanui o na hihia, wale i ka pakiko-mai nei ke kali kahi o kōkua ana iā ia ma muli o ia "skromnyagi". O ka holo ana, eia Samaria huahelu mea i hiki i ka hoike manao, a haawi aku i ka lima, ina e ike ia kekahi pono. Akā, me he rula, kanaka - "Moana." Nolaila, e pono e hoʻopale 'mai ia i ka loa. No laila, pehea e lanakila ka makaʻu, a ke kaua aku hoʻi i loko o ka pilikia kulana home 'ole?

Ka maopopo 'ana ma na mea he nui i lawe mai, mai kamaliʻi: o ka ikaika o na makua, kumu mai i kaʻike (albeit unconsciously) i kekahi puu, e uhai i kekahi keiki ka kanaka, e noi mai ana hoolohe. Makaʻu e noho i loko o ka hapanui kanaka.

Oe e lanakila ka makaʻu, me ka io i mawaho kōkua. E hana i kēia, oe e ole e pono ai i ka psychologist, e hiki e hana me ka "vests" hoa a me ka hanauna.

E kiʻi pohaku uinihepa, o ka makaʻu, a me ka waiwai paulele i loko o lakou Pono e e hoʻomaʻamaʻa (a hoʻokō '). Oka ma ka sport hilinaʻi nui ma Muscle nuipa a me ka oi mākau. Nō hoʻi ma ka maʻamau o ke ola, e loaʻa ai ka pomaikai, e hoopai auanei aʻo. Nolaila, e haawi like ka nui me hiki, a ina oe e ole haha aku keia hemahema. Travel amo, kūʻai ma ka hale kūʻai, mau hoalauna - kela kanaka keia kanaka ke lilo "trainers" e hoʻomōhala i kou paulele a me ka noho kauwa ole ana, mai makau. Pela no oe e ike koke ana i ka lanakila ka makaʻu, a me ka e hiki ke Makuakane me ia.

Ma ke kaʻina hana o ka 'ōlelo i kiaʻia ma luna o kona interlocutor, a me kona ma waho hana, i ho'āʻo i ka pohihihi mai la oia i ka noʻonoʻo mea like e ike nei, a me ka manaʻo e paka ia. Oe Pono e aʻo, e kālele ana ma luna mawaho kamaʻilio, e papa aku i kekahi "loko monologues, manaʻo hoʻopiʻi kū'ē" e haawi ala i ka notorious hopohopo nona. Kēia e ae e ike i ka naoh o ka interlocutor, e maopopo mea e loaa ia ia ma ka naau. Eia hou kekahi, no laila, e hiki ke 'imi i loko kaulike, a pakele o physiological pilikia ma ka' ōlelo (maloo puu, stuttering, hou ma ka lae) a me ka manaʻoʻike ( 'oe e ole mea e pono e olelo aku ai, a e nalowale hoʻopoina).

E hiki no hoi ho'āʻo e akoakoa ai i ke ano o ka visualizing lākou makaʻu - i e ka palapala papa inoa, a laila, e puhi ia. Kēia, e lilo i ka manaʻoʻike liberation, mai mea weliweli oe ma mua. Anna loaa i ka lilo o ka noho kauwa ole ana, a hoʻomaka i ka manawalea ma ka like wawae eha, oe, e maopopo ana i ka lanakila i ka makau.