Mau pane i ola ninau e pili ana i ke kumu au i ole hoa

I ke kanaka - ka nohona ia, ho'āʻo hoʻonuinui. O ka loa pau introvert kekahi manawa e makemake ina oe e ole kamaʻilio, no laila, ma ka liʻiliʻi loa e noho i loko o ke kaiaulu no ka kekahi e haha aku kekahi i ka kākoʻo, a ma ka liʻiliʻi loa ka naʻauao a me ka empathy i ka keʻano o ka hanaʻana i e hanaia ana ma ka uhane. Eia naʻe, nui a me ka nui kanaka i loko o mākou technogenic makahiki hoomanawanui mai loneliness, a kahaha no ke kumu aʻu e ole i mau hoa? Mākou noho-mākou mea,ʻaʻole ma ka wao nahele moku, a pau puni - he hailona ana o kanaka, a kapa aku la i kekahi hoa o ka kekahi ... A e mākou, no ka mea, me ka, e ka noi i ka ninau: owai la mea keia "hoa", a pehea ia i kekahi, mai ka "hoa" a me ka "hoa."

Ka hapanui o kela paha, o mākou ma ka liʻiliʻi koke i loko o kona ola, akā,ʻo ua launa ka hoao ana (maikai paha, he ino paha - o kekahi nīnau). E hoomanao i ka distinguishes ia kanaka, mai na mea e ae? Mua, oe i imi mai e manawalea ae. E mau ia e hai aku i kekahi i kekahi. A oe mai makaʻu, e kaʻana like me keia kanaka kā lākou mau loa malu manaʻo, makau mea e hoʻopuʻukahua a kaʻawale me ka hoʻowahāwahā ole. Ka lua, oe i kekahi kūpaʻa ma ka makemake e kōkua i kona hoa, oe e kaumaha empathized a me nā mea a pau kona miseries a me joys. A, loa importantly, hana oe i ike ia no ka mea ia mea, i mea, mai i ho'āʻo i ka "hana" a me ka hoʻonaʻauao. Oe i'ōlelo aʻo,ʻaʻole eʻauhau iā lākou mau manao, e like me ka mea i mea e pono launa'ōlelo aʻo a me ka manaʻo kōkua, a me ka ole kauoha a me ka noho pono ana. Ano ia ka manawa e hele aku ai i ka ninau o ka piha o ka hoa no ke aha la kekahi kanaka, a me au i ole maoli hoa?

He lapuwale ka'Āhewa oe iho ia makou e ole i "mana", i mea aloha. He lapuwale ia'Āhewa 'ē aʻe, ka mea, indifferently hele ana, a' aʻole 'i makemake e ike i ke kupanaha kanaka oe i. Aka, i ka pane ana i ka ninau e pili ana i ke kumu au i ole makamaka, ke moe ma ka pelane o interpersonal kamaʻilio 'oe a me kou poai puniia lehulehu. A kanaka ka mea 100 makamaka, mea i makau i ka wehe mai i ka 'ē aʻe. Ma keia ano, ua hiki ke olelo aku i ke aloha - ia mea maoli risky. Akā, e like me ka mea, e olelo aku, i kekahi mea, aa aku la, i ole i kekahi, e inu Kamapane.

E manaoio mai iaʻu, ma laila i loko o kou nā wahi e kanaka, ka poe au i ka uku hoopanee ole. Wale, paha, mau i waena o ia mau no ka paakiki a me ka hoomanawanui, e tolerate kou "hookalakupua spiny hedgehog".

Paha kou hoʻokaʻawale i kona kumu: ka betrayal o ka mua no laila,-kapa hoa i hōʻole i ka credibility o ka holoʻokoʻa kanaka heihei. Eia naʻe, ina mea ua kumakaia oe, ka mea, 'aʻole i manaʻo i ka mea'ē aʻe kanaka e hana i ka ia, a me ka betrayal - ", au i ole hou makamaka" mea,ʻaʻole he kumu e olelo aku, Inā 'oe - he introvert, oe i emi paha e hana eha iaʻi mai ka loneliness, akā, i kou loko ao nei, aole ia i ae mai ina oe e ke kanaka'ē aʻe ma laila. Omaka i ka moʻomanaʻo, a kākau iho i kou inā pilikia ka haumāna a me ka hana hoihoi manaʻo - ma manawa oe e e koi 'ia i kaʻike kamepiula "buddylist" i - nana i ike i? - hiki ke lilo maoli hoa i loko o maoli ke ola.

"ʻO wai ka mea i aloha - ke aloha" - mele i loko o ke mele kaulana. Ka pane ana i ka ninau e pili ana i ke kumu au i ole makamaka, pinepine moe i loko o ka unwillingness a hikiʻole ke aloha. Oe makemake e kaʻana i kou manao, e hai aku i ka ke kālā, akā, ai i manakā, e hoolohe i ka kekahi i ka moʻolelo e pili ana i na mai hehe, a ohana vicissitudes o ka uuku-ike kanaka? E ho'āʻo i hana ole e like me ka mea i kanaka, e ninini mai i kona uhane, akā, like me ka kekahi ao, me ka ike ole, a loa hana hoihoi.

Ina oe i loa i ke ku pono hihia: oe anei aloha e delve i loko o kekahi o ka ke ola, Ua aloha au i ka hoʻolohe i ka moʻolelo e pili ana i nā kanaka a me ka manaʻo hoʻopuka i ka poe i hana i ka mea pono, akā, i mea fundamentally hewa. No ka mea, a pau kou sociability a me ka makemake e hāʻawi'ē aʻe akamai aʻo (! No ka mea, ka mea ola oe i ike ai mamua), He koke mai oe, e hoʻomaka i ka haha a puni oe holo, a ninau aku oe ia oe iho, Hawaii Puzzle: no ke aha la au e ole i mau hoa? Aloha ua nānā 'ana i ka mahalo i ka mea'ē aʻe e like me kekahi kanaka. E ka e aʻo i manawa a pau, akā, wale ina kanaka maoli ninau ia. Not e ao aku,ʻaʻole moralizing, a ma kekahi hihia e ole manipulate kanaka.