Ole-ia hoʻi lima kolohe 'ana a me kā lākou mau manaʻo

I kekahi manawa kanaka i ka olelo mai e like me kā lākou hilinaʻi oiaio a me ka manao. No ka maopopo i ua maoli manao i kou hoapili ia, e kōkua 'ole-waha lima kolohe' ana. E ka iki hou hooikaika ka iloko o ke keakea ole. Kēia e ae oe e kiʻi i ka hailona 'ike hou aku ma mua o au makemake makemake i kekahi, i ka hoa paio.

Anei keia he oiaio?

He nui nā poʻe e-Liloa e pili ana ia i kahe like 'ole-waha' kamaʻilio. Lima kolohe 'ana, lehalehu t, ka' aoʻao i ike i kekahi mea maoli a me ka mechanically. Akā, ka mea, Ua haawiia mai i kēia mea, ua hiki ke kamailio e pili ana i ka politika-waha 'ʻano papa hana o ka objectivity. Psychologists ua hoolilo i ka hailona o 'epekema hana i ke kahe ana. Akā, inā na skeptics a me keia mea,ʻaʻole he hoʻopaʻapaʻa wale, e alakai i kuokoa pono ana ia mea lawa. No ka laʻana, ke aʻo 'ana e decipher i ka manao a me ka manaʻo o ko lākou mau mea aloha, a me ka hope oe e e hiki ke ike ma'ē.

O ka holo ana, ua pono ole poina i ka loaʻa mau hewa a hiki i ka rula. Penei, he kanaka hiki ke lawe i kēia paha ia oihana wale ma ka ikaika o ka maʻa. Eia hou kekahi, he mea hiki i ka mea, i ole e manao ana pono a me ka mea ke koikoi kapa. Kanaka hana hiki i ka nui hopena mahana. Penei, mākou e underestimate i ke kūlana o ka ole-waha 'kamaʻilio. Naʻe, ma mua ka hana hope loa hopena a, ia mea kumukuai nānā pono i nā kumu i loko o i ke kamailio ana i wahi.

He aha hana i nā lima i loko o kona mauʻekeʻeke

Pinepine, ka mea hiki ke ike i kekahi kanaka ma ke kamailio ana me kona mau lima i loko o kona mauʻekeʻeke. Kekahi manaʻo i kēia mea he kīnā o ka inoʻano. No hoi, e ole ai ia e hoole i ka manawa kūpono i kekahi kanaka mea haʻahaʻa paʻahau, oiai ma ka ke koikoi ana wela ana. Naʻe, ina ka ole-waha mākou noonoo kino 'ōlelo, e hiki ke hele mai i ka hopena a kēia:

• Hands hūnāʻia i loko o kona mauʻekeʻeke, hiki e he PAaIEN o, pili lehulehu. Ke kanaka i loko o keia oihana i e kekahi mea e noʻonoʻo ai, e kūkulu i kekahi kumumanao o ka hana. Eia naʻe,ʻo ia e ia i kekahi wahi wiggle a'ōwili mai kuekue wawae i ka manamananui.
• Kekahi transcript o keia lima kolohe 'ana - ia mea boredom. No ka laʻana, ma halawai lōʻihi 'ole' ohi 'ia o ka naita ma kanaka pinepine hele, i kona mau lima i loko o kona mauʻekeʻeke, no ka mea, hiki ole oe haʻalele i ka hanana, akā, i ka mea e hoihoi' ua hanaia ma luna o laila. Penei, ina kou hoapili ia i lawe i ka like kulana, oe e makemake e hoʻopau i ka leo kahea a hoolilo ia i ka oi pīhoihoi Track.
• Inā na lima i loko o kona mauʻekeʻeke hūnā i ka lohe, a me ka'ōlelo, ka mea i hoike i kona insincerity. IeAUPIIe, IAa IO, ka mea, o ka lima e haawi aku i ka wahahee, akā, no ka poʻe instinctively hūnā ia ai oe e ole koko i kona mau manao.
• ʻOkoʻa, lima i loko o kaʻekeʻeke hiki e mai la no ka OE e pili ana o kou interlocutor. He e loa paha i hoihoi ole mai i makemake e hana oe i mea hai aku ia ia. Akā, i ka hopena ua, o ka papa, e hilinaʻi ma luna o kou kiʻekiʻe o ke kauoha aupuni.
• Inā mākou e noonoo i ka ole-waha lima kolohe 'ana o na kanaka, ma ka noho pu ana me nā wāhine lima hūnāʻia i loko o kona trouser eke (pono lole wāwae!) E kamailio e pili ana i Likes a me libido. Akā, Hana ia me nā lālā o lākou iho ke keka, no laila, e maopopo ana i ka mana a me ka Kuokoa.

hōʻike pono

Ike i ka nonverbal lima kolohe 'ana, e hiki loa Nohie i kou ola, no ka mea, ka mea hiki ke hoʻohana' e maopopo i ka manao oiaio ana o ka interlocutor a me ka i pili ia oe. No ka laʻana, ina kekahi e imi i ka ÷ ike pakiko-ka wiwo ole, e like me ka superiority a me ka mana maluna o oukou, ka mea hiki ke hoʻomaopopo ma ke kēia mau hiʻona:

• Ke kanaka, e waiho aku i kona mau lima ma hope o kona kua, hoohaakei ana mai i kona umauma mua. Pela, oia UOAN e hōʻike i kona ikaika.
• Hands casually haule i loko o kaʻekeʻeke, a me ke kino o impressively nanea wale. Pela ke kanaka e ho'āʻo ana e hōʻike i kou mālama ana iā ia, a me ka uninteresting.
• I kekahi manawa, overbearing kanaka hiki ke lawe i ka kūlana pale mai, o kona mau lima i kela kapa o kona umauma, a huki i ka manamana nui mai. Kēia 'o ia hoʻi ia he mea la no UOAAaOON e hoomalu aku ia ia iho, akā, Kahalaopuna superiority no oe.

tactile AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN

Noonoo pono i ka ole-ia hoʻi lima kolohe 'ana, e uku nānā' ana i ka tactile AaOIeIOUIeXAOAaIN me ka interlocutor. No laila, ua hiki ke kamailio e pili ana i ke kēia:

• Inā he halawai me ka hoa a me ka hoahānau eʻapo, he pōkole hui 'e lawe ole aku ma mua o kekahi i ka waiwai auhau i ka mea'ē.
• Hug o ia hoʻi, e kanaka e hanau mai la, a me ka olioli nui, e ike oe. Naʻe, ina o ka waiū o oi aku ka ikaika, a me oe e literally ka hakui o ma luna o ka mea, ia mea he mea hiki i kekahi kanaka ua wale imi e e ka olioli o kuu ike ana ia oukou.
• Inā, i ka embrace o ke kanaka Hawaii e manao nui a me ka oukou oluolu, ia olelo e pili ana no oe.
• Inā 'oe e hālāwai me ke kanaka wehe mua i kona lima no ka handshake, ka mea, olelo mai o kona boundless hilinaʻi i loko o oe.
• Inā, i ka handshake kanaka ua ole ia i ka lima, a kokoke i ka na pulima oʻu, ka mea, olelo mai o kona mau hana kupua e pili ana. Ua ua no laila, i loko o nā lā o ka Roma aupuni a pau i kulana kupono ina loaʻa i loko o ka lua hoa pahi.
• Inā he kanaka Haalulu iho i kou lima, paa lou a me na lima elua, luliluli vigorously (paha ma o na la oe discomfort), ka mea wale nō hōʻike i kona oiaio olioli ma ka halawai ana me oe.
• Inā, i ka handshake e haha aku i kou lima interlocutor sluggish, ka hoʻomāhuahua aiʻano o 'Aʻole e holopono ana, no ka mea, ua i kele pūnaewele e leka uilaʻoe.
• Inā kekahi kanaka i kona lima , lāʻau i lalo, ma ka subconscious ilikai, oia mālama iā Kīwala'ō oe.
• Pat ma ka hope o ka noho aloha e pili ana. Eia hou, i kēia lima kolohe 'ana hōʻike i ka ikaika o ka interlocutor, a me kona makemake, e kōkua.
• E ao o kanaka, ka poe i ke kamailio ana Haiʻina mai oe ma ka lima. Kou manaʻo mistrust, ka mea, hoi ho'āʻo e huli oe ia ia, a hiki insinuate i ka mea hiki ia i kou ike loea hoa. Akā, i kēia lima kolohe 'ana mea e mau loa ana me oiaio, no ka mea, ua manaʻoʻike i kūpono pinepine hoʻohanaʻia e kanaka me ka p'mau manao.

Pehea eʻike walohia

Kekahi o na kumu nui pilikia o ka pilina ma waena o ke alo o sexes - kēia hilinaʻiʻole. I kekahi manawa, oi aku hua'ōlelo hiki ke hōʻike 'ole-waha' kamaʻilio. Lima kolohe 'ana i hōʻike walohia, i ka i kēia:

• Gleam i loko o kona mau maka - mea,ʻaʻole he nā kaʻao. A kanakaʻike piʻi walohia, oiaio, nana ka iki okoa, a me ka cornea lilo hou hydrated. Eia hou, na haumana e e kekahi hoʻonui.
• Enamored poʻe ma luna o ka subconscious ilikai, ho'āʻo i ka leʻaleʻa. Ke'ī mai, ma ka huiʻana,ʻo ia hanaʻia likeʻole manipulations me ko lākouʻano: aligns ka hope, pulls ka opu, straightens kona lauoho.
• Na kane a me na wahine e ho'āʻo ana e huki hoʻolohe i ka 'īnea i mawaho ano. Kēia i ke kau ana i ka manamana ma luna o ke kāʻei o ka wāwae, he akea-i wāwae, holoku wale i ke pihi luna o kona Awaits.
• hiki i hana lima kolohe 'ana (i kekahi manawa' ole) malama like me ka hoailona o ka manao. Ka mea i kekahi kanaka i loko o ke aloha pinepine lilo aku i ka mana hoʻomalu ma luna o kā lākou mau hana.
• Loiloi i ka manao o ka interlocutor hiki ia i loko o ka olelo o kona nānā aku. Inā ka mea, haka pono mai i loko o nā maka, he mea pono, e manaoio ana oia i ka hoihoi i loko o oe me kekahi kanaka. A me ka nana aku, holo ae la makou a puni ke kino,ʻo ia ka mea e kamailio pu ana e pili ana i oi ma mua o ka moe makemake.
• Inā i ke kanaka o ka mea e ku pono ke keka e mau ana e kiʻi kokoke, a ma lalo o kekahi pretext, e hoopaʻoe,ʻaʻohe mea'ē aʻe ka hopohopo i loko o kona mau sympathies.

disinterest

I kekahi manawa, he kanaka mau i ka moʻolelo, me ka ike ole i ka mea'ē aʻe aoao o loa uninteresting. E hele mai i ke kōkua o ole-waha 'kamaʻilio. Lima kolohe 'ana ae hōʻike ana ka hoomaopopo ole, e like penei:

• Inā ka mea'ē aʻe kanaka nā keʻa i kona mau lima,ʻo ia instinctively pani ia oe. E mālama ana iā ia kekahi, a me kaʻawaʻawa loa.
• 'Ōlelo Aʻo kahi manao interlocutor hoouna mai. Inā e kiai anywhere, akā,ʻaʻole i loko o kou maka, e mea pono e hoopau i ke kamailio ana.
• Inā he kanaka makemake e hoʻopau i ke kamailio ana, a hele aku, ka mea e haawi aku ikaika glancing i kona wati. I komo i kona mau kāmaʻa hiki ke kuhikuhi ma ka puka.

lehalehu t hiʻona

Nui hiki e mai la no ke kanaka, a me kona naʻau i loko i kona lehalehu t, ka 'aoʻao. Ole-ia hoʻi lima kolohe 'ana, lewa ma luna o ka maka, ke olelo e pili ana i ke kēia:

• hou maka a me ka aa kala ole lehelehe olelo o ka huhu naʻau i loko;
• hoalaia kuemaka a me ka laula mau maka ke ano o kekahi mea hou;
• i loko o ka moku'āina o ka makau mau lehelehe, aole i lalau mai akea, a ua kuu iho ko lakou mau kihi;
• pomaikai ua wehewehe aku ma ka laʻi nānā aku, a iki hoala kihi o kona waha;
• kaumaha ke kanaka kai me kona hulu kuʻemaka pu, a iho i nā kihi o nā lehelehe.

leo o ka leo

I ka papa kuhikuhiE aoao o ka pū i hiki 'ikepili - waha. Nonverbal lima kolohe 'ana ke h ÷ ike i ka interviewee e ho'āʻo ana e hūnā. No emi informative hiki ia i ka leo i hiki ke hai aku ia oe e pili ana i ke kēia:

• hookeai, a kue ia i loko o Hamau nanahe Hōʻike nui pīhoihoi;
• ka paulele a me ka leo kamailio hoike i kaʻeleu ohohia;
• ina he kanaka i olelo mai sluggish, ua hakumakuma i ka leo o ka pau ana o ka hopuna'ōlelo, ia mea he luhi;
• ana a kali koʻu waha, a ua wehewehe aku ma kekahi mau leo, hoike o ka naau haakei o ka interlocutor;
• paʻa ihola i loko o ka olelo, unintentional hewa hoike nervousness a me ka nele o ka mea i hilinaʻi ai.

na hoailona o ka wahaheʻe

Ike i ka nui o ka ole-ia hoʻi lima kolohe 'ana i hiki ke huai ae wahaheʻe interlocutors. No laila, e lohe i ka penei kumu:

• hooloihiia manawa e hoʻomaka i ka hopuna'ōlelo a pinepine mō'ī;
• asymmetry i loko o ka lehalehu t nāʻiʻo;
• oi mamua o 10 kekona ua ole UAIAaIN ma lehalehu tʻa i;
• Emotions ai ka haohao ana ke aumoe, a i 'Aʻohe i ka maʻiʻo o ka olelo;
• Hohola ae la o minoʻaka mea, aole ia e ho okumu uma, a ololi laina o na lehelehe;
• ka nele o ka maka;
• manipulating na lima a me na wawae ( 'enehana hou, twitching) a me ka zakusyvanie lehelehe;
• E ho'āʻo i ka malama i gesticulations ma ponopono;
• kaumaha hanu, a me ka ikaika hana o ka leo o ka leo;
• paa hou mai la oweliweli me ka aoao mau lima a me nā wāwae, a kūlou hoʻi;
• anaanai i ka ihu a kenekulia (ka mea hiki ia i afterthought a māhunehune kekahi ');
• 'ākauʻaoʻao (ma ka hua'ōlelo o ke kino 'ōlelo) Ua oi hana ma mua o ka hema;
• ua höʻike pü Emotions a me ka lima kolohe 'ana;
• pinepine blinking.

mamao

Noonoo pono i ka ole-ia hoʻi 'ano o nā lima kolohe' ana, ua hiki ole ke olelo e pili ana i ka heihei, a ua paʻa i waena o kanaka i loko o kekahi ana. No laila, nui maliu mai i ka keia mau mea kiko'î i manaoia:

• mai ai i ka hapalua o ka mika - o ke aikane oe mamao ma waena o aloha poʻe e noho ana i loko o ka pilina o ka hilinai;
• mai ka 0.5 hiki i 1.5 ka m - no keia mamao crony interpersonal kamaʻilio;
• 1.5-3.5 ka m - ka nohona mamao i meaʻoluʻolu no ka 'ōlelo ma waena o nā malihini, e like me ka hana mau mea;
• 3,7 ka m - mea he lehulehu kaawale mai i ka hana ana ua paa ia ma mua o ka hoolohe nui.

Pono e ike kēlā me kēia

Max Egger nona ka invaluable na makana i nā haʻawina o kēia mea, e like me ke kumu o ka ole-waha lima kolohe 'ana. He hoʻomohala i kekahi ano o ka 75 no lepa, i ka papa kuhikuhiE poe i na kēia:

• holo ana o ka Adamu ka ohia hōʻike pīhoihoi paha interlocutor ia ia ke hai aku i ka oiaio;
• ina na lima i ka hui 'ana me kekahi mea, ka mea, ua olelo mai ka maopopo';
• ina he kanaka stroking i kona chin,ʻo ia ke noʻonoʻo i kaumaha;
• zakusyvanie manamana lima, penikala a me ka maha o ia hoʻi, i ke kanaka e koho;
• stroking i ka hope o ka'ā'ī, ua huhu paha aloha hooweliweli e oe;
• ina he kanaka lomi ia i kona mau lima,ʻo ia manao e loaa ia ia e pōmaikaʻi ai;
• socks ina kapuai ke kaawale ma ka lima, he kanaka Kahalaopuna i oi ia oe.

ka hopena

Inā e makemakeʻoe eʻike hou aku ma mua o ka mea a oukou e olelo aku, ia mea pono e aʻo hoailona 'ōlelo. Ole-waha 'kamaʻilio mea paʻakikī i ka hooponopono ana, a nolaila, e hiki ke noʻonoʻo i ka loa Pahuhopu. Eia naʻe,ʻaʻole loa poina i kekahi mau lima kolohe 'ana i ke pili me ka maikaʻiʻana a mawaho keiki.