Pehea e eo ai ka liliʻike manaʻo i wehe i ka pale o ka mea ikea ole ...

Psychologists ua loa i kekahi, a ua hiki ke hōʻoia i nā loina lehulehu, ma i ua ma muliʻike manaʻo: lili ua pololei e pili ana i ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia. I mea nui lili kanaka hoʻoneʻe 'ia paha e hana eha iaʻi mai ka pakiko-kanalua no hoi, a painfully reacts literally na mea a pau. A mahope mai o ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia o kēlā me kēia kanaka mea paha e hoʻololi, i kekahi mea'ōnaehana paleʻea, mai ka manaʻoʻino wale i.

No ke aha la e hoʻololi i kekahi kanaka, aʻaʻole'ē aʻe hana?

Ma nā makahiki, hoomaka ae la psychologists e kamaʻilio e pili ana i nā hana hoihoi kūʻiʻo i wehewehe ole wale i keʻano o ka lili, akā, i keʻano papa hana o kona waiwai ma luna o ke kanaka, me kona ohana, a me ka hopena o ka a pau. ʻepekema, ua loaʻa i ka mea i loko o nā nā'ōewe ole a pau hiki o ke kipi. Not malama pono i na kanaka a hoʻomaka e kanalua ai i ka lokomaikai o kona wahine (keʻano papa hana i kapa wānana ma kaʻike manaʻo). A wahine intuitively ike ia ia mea he maikai loa. A me ka lili, ina oia Kahalaopuna i loko ona i ka hiki i ka pinepine hoololiia.

Kanalua mea: ka liliʻike manaʻo mea,ʻaʻole no ka mea! Oe ke wehewehe i ka hana o ka lili a me ka hiʻona o ka hoʻonaʻauao, ke ano o ka PilinaʻOhana.

Pepehi aʻoluʻoluʻo ka pilina?

He aha noiʻi nō aelike, pela no ka mea i loko o kapa. No laila, e luku aku i ka pilina hiki wale nō e lili. Keʻike manaʻo o kēia kŰia like penei. Hōʻike 'ia hilinaʻiʻole o ka mea i aloha ai, ua lulu ma kona manao o ka manaʻo o ka hiki ka hala me neia: "e lili, no laila,ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke hana (hiki) e hoʻololi, no ke aha la i ..?"' Aʻole e hōʻike pehea hōʻino ia e hāʻiliʻili aku.

Oiai o ka nui oʻApelila ia, a he kupono lili e hoomaha mai oe i ka pilina, e ia mua kuko. 'Ano' hoike ana (screams, scandals, e hāʻiliʻili aku, hilinaʻiʻole i kona ') mea,ʻaʻole he maopopo o ke aloha, akā, e'ōlelo aku i ka maopopo indifferent. Ia mea,ʻaʻole e pono, nae, e ninini i kaʻaila i loko o ke ahi: hana ole mōkākī me keia "Othello".

E like me ka pukaʻana luku aloha?

Complex Emotions pu paha ka lili. ʻike manaʻo o "kelepona '" i waena o ia mea: huhu, bewilderment, makau o losing i kekahi mea i aloha ai hoʻokahi a me ka selfishness. Emotions ka mea, i mau hoike i loko o ia ka hoʻopiha. Kekahi o ia hiki Kīwala'ō. A e hoʻoponopono i hiki ke maopopo wale ka pilikia i loko o kēlā me kēia hui e like me ka hoao ana i ka luna 'Emotions a me reactions hoikeia'ku auanei. He aha kēia nui ke kumu no kēia mau reactions i loko o kekahi kanaka, a mea he une lōhai.

No ka laʻana, makau o ka i wale ke hoʻopio i ka naʻau, ina he kanaka kaʻoiaʻiʻo e kaukaʻi ma ke aloha pilina, ina i loko o ia mea, ua ike i ke ano o ke ola. Ma keia hihia, i kekahi psychologist hoi, a kuka e ola ko lakou mau ola, hoʻonui lākou mau pono, i ole e noho ana ma luna o kekahi mea i aloha ai. No ka harmonious ana meaʻano nui,ʻaʻole e lilo aku oe ia oe iho.

Inā ke kumu o ka mea haʻahaʻa ka hoʻoponopono-ʻia - i loko o kou mana e hana ia e kaukaʻi ma nā aʻe i nā oi pono mai i ka pomaikai ma ka hana, mai ka manaʻo o nā hoapili, mai ka makakū e piʻi like a me na mea e ae.

Okoa hoike mai ai ia ikaika. Psychologists ke hai aku i ke ala, a me ka mea ala, e i, e hele aku ana. E aʻo i kūkākūkā i ka hanana a me ka pu 'oe e' imi i ke ala mai.

Ka loa like une lōhai

Ma kekahi pilina, ma neia hope aku, aia hiki mai ka manawa ia ke lawe i kekahi hapalua i kekahi mea o ka papa. He ua pinepine pu ma ke ano o ka ona, "Mai Mai hoopa ia - ia ka noʻu," ka nui kuhihewa o ka ipo - e ia hoʻopio i ka manao iho. Mākou e hoʻomaka ana i ka Ban aloha i na mea he. Ma mua, kekahi mea liʻiliʻi loli, laila, kīkoʻolā mai ua kamailio pu ana pololei, pehea a me ka mea e hana. He mea känalua 'ke kumu o kona hana mākou e kipi naoh, i ua kaheaia ole wale i loko o nā loli physical, akā, i manaʻoʻike: he aloha kekahi lau iā mākou, holo aku, mai ka hopena maikaʻi, a me ka naau o kona poe hoahanau.

Mai Mai manaʻo i kēia, e ole hiki mai ia oe, ka mea, ua maikaʻi insure lakou iho. Not hiki ke wehe i loa mai i ka pilina ma ka lili. Keʻike manaʻo o kēia kŰia paipai ana i ka pono pane. Universal ahaolelo hakuʻole, akā, i ka papa kuhikuhiE rula mea: e haawi mai ke aloha, aʻo e hilinaʻi, a kala mai. Hoomalu i kou pilina, akā,ʻaʻole ma ka mea o ka hooponopono, dominance a me ka lili!